Do you have friends who won’t indulge in video games? Are you the only one in your relationship who thinks a great date night is comprised of yummy snacks and (even yummier) level grinding? That should change, that can change and that will change, my friends. Read on to find out how.
All right, maybe “turn” is a bit harsh. We’re not turning them into anything they’re not. We’re simply creating an optimal environment for your non-gamer friend in which his or her love for video games can take root and flourish. There’s no subtle manipulation going on here (i.e. it’s not subtle). Now, let’s get to how to convert your (unenlightened) friend.
1. Start Small and Go Slow
This is probably the most important tip. If you can only remember one, let it be this one. However, be warned: this is also the most difficult piece of advice to adhere to. It’s tempting to introduce your favorite video games to your friend immediately into the process. But, it’s best that you restrain yourself. Play something fun, simple and friendly. I can bet your first video game was not something like Civilization, and if you introduce a non-gamer to something that is too deep or complex he or she will most definitely find it off-putting.
Possible Response: My first game was Civilization and I take offense to that. And what do you mean too complex? Are you calling my friend dumb?
Answer: First: Please do not take offense to anything that’s written on the internet. Second: When I say too complex it has nothing to do with intelligence. Your friend needs exposure to the very basics before getting to the (relatively) complicated stuff, so he or she can find out what he or she likes. Also, if you’re trying to turn a non-gamer into a gamer then I would assume that his or her interest level is low. So, you don’t want to make them exert too much energy on video games just yet.
2. Positively Reinforce
Yes, it sounds perfectly ridiculous, but it works. If your friend claims that video games don’t provide him or her with enjoyment, then supplement it with something else. Bring snacks, offer chocolates and compliment their video game skills while he or she is playing. After you guys are done playing, thank your friend for his or her time and then accommodate your friend’s interests. By doing simple things like the ones listed, you will create a pleasant experience that your friend will associate with playing video games.
My Suggestion: Surprise your friend with their favorite snacks right before you start playing. Not sure what snacks to get? I say you can never go wrong with chocolate.
Possible Response: Now this sounds like manipulation!
Answer: Do you want a friend that plays video games or not? (By the way, you’re just making it fun. It’s not sinister.)
3. Play Games He/She Would Be Interested In
Does your friend love football? Then play Madden with them. Does your friend love guns? Play almost every other video game with them.
My Suggestion: (See tip no. 3)
Possible Response: What if I hate the games that my friend loves?
Answer: It’s only temporary. Don’t worry. With a little patience, your friend will be playing Borderlands 2 with you in no time.
4. Don’t Go Full Nerd (Yet)
Do not overload them with facts, figures, stats, articles and what have you. Think about what it’s like when someone is discussing something in depth that you have little to no interest in. It’s the most effective way to get others to zone out completely. So, it’s around the worst thing to happen to a conversation. Sharing our extensive knowledge of video games is so much fun for video game lovers, but may only serve to reaffirm the disinterest of non-gamers.
My Suggestion: Go at his or her speed and make it about them.
Possible Response: How is my friend supposed to find his or her love for video games if we can’t even talk about them?
Answer: You can go in depth when they’re ready. Just don’t jump into it.
5. Consistency Is Key
Continually expose your friend to video games and tailor the games you recommend to their responses to past video games. Does your friend abhor FPS games? Then maybe take a break from those, but definitely don’t stop encouraging their video game habit. Did you recently buy a game? Invite your friend over to play. Don’t give your friend a chance to stop playing (or, at the very least, don’t give your friend a chance to stop seeing video games being played altogether).
My Suggestion: Don’t stop. One great game of Battlefield won’t change his or her mind about video games. Not in a meaningful way, that is. But, with that in mind, always keep it at your friend’s pace.
Possible Response: Are you saying I should force video games upon my friend?
Answer: No. If your friend doesn’t want to play, then they don’t want to play. That’s it. Just don’t stop including them.
There you have it! Follow these five tips to turn your friends into video game aficionados. It takes work but it’s well worth it!
What have you done to turn your friends into gamers? Tell us in the comments below!
Note: This article was originally posted on gamebloggirl.com.